A Player’s Guide to Getting Real Results and Never Looking Back (5/5)

But something that probably wasn’t mentioned during the sales conversation: what you get out of coaching is almost entirely determined by how you show up once the confetti settles. 

Signing up was the easy part—now it’s time to roll up your sleeves for the real work and that’s all you, Player.

Think of your coach as the strategic co-pilot...but YOU are the one flying the jet. No one gets to take their hands off the wheel, not even for a second.

So, let’s break down how to get the most out of your coaching “Notes on Power” style—practical, powerful, and a little philosophical:

Your coach is mapping out what matters for your next big move—so actually DO the thing.  

- If you decide with your coach to update your offer? Update it.  

- If you decide with your coach to rework your website? Rework it.

- If you decide with your coach that connecting with five new people a week would be good for your outbound communication? Yep, make it awkward and MAKE IT HAPPEN.

Insight without action is just…procrastination with its shirt tucked in. Your progress isn’t measured by the brilliance of what’s suggested, but by how fiercely you work those suggestions into your business and, in turn, your bank account.

Your coach is not the Oracle of Delphi. 

Sure, they know a bit about a lot, but YOU are the expert on your world.  

If a recommendation from your coach feels off, ask them why they’re suggesting it. Your coach should welcome the challenge—good coaching is a dialogue, not an edict. The best results come when you get nosy, poke holes in ideas, and lean in where it feels right.

The Power moves you shouldn’t be afraid to play with your coach include voicing disagreements, owning your intuition, and co-creating better solutions. If there’s tension, it means you’re playing the REAL game—not just seeking approval.

Playing “A* client” so your coach stays impressed? I’ve been there, done that and regretted it.  

Stop trying to look perfect—perfection is expensive and gets you nowhere fast. Don’t let the need to “impress” keep you silent when you need help.  Your coach is here for the messiest, rawest version of you—not the fake-it-for-the-gram version.  

Bring your “this fell apart” stories and admit the flop jallops (I recently learned that term from my New Yorker husband.) Apparently, it’s when you pick up a pizza slice and it falls down because the base isn’t crispy enough to hold everything in place. Sometimes, the base isn’t crispy enough, and it needs to be cooked longer in the oven or have a different dough-to-topping ratio. This information is a goldmine for progress, so your coach needs to know. 

Also, along a similar line, share the messy middle bits. Nothing ever needs to be neatly packaged before it’s presented back to your coach. They know it’s a work in progress and they’ll accept whatever form this takes (unless you’re clearly half-arsing the work, then you can expect to be called out.)

Lastly, when you’re in conversation with your coach, ask them silly questions. Tell them about the silly thoughts you just can’t seem to shake. 9.9 times out of 10 these things aren’t silly, and talking about them might just create the breakthrough you need.

Be open about your challenges. Say the awkward stuff. Your coach isn’t judging you; this is simply information that helps your coach help you in overcoming the hurdles quickly.

So when you get assigned reading, research, or an action, don’t just tick the box. There’s a reason your coach is suggesting you do this work, and it’s not simply to keep you occupied. Dig.

👉🏽 Make detailed notes and highlight what applies to your business.

👉🏽 Go stalker-level on your research—surface answers for the sake of scoring points won’t cut it.

👉🏽Action your recommended “power moves”—not just when you feel inspired, but ESPECIALLY when you don’t. As a coach, I will work with you to design your assigned power moves so that they feel like they flow for you, but some stuff will be a brick wall you need to sledgehammer. Resistance is real, and we don’t get to walk away just because we don’t like how it feels. Push through. 

Why are we doing things, rather than just checking off tasks for the sake of it? Because consistency creates data, and data fuels your next bold step. Skipping assignments is sabotaging your own reinvention. It is what it is.

If you can, record your sessions with your coach or ask them to allow your AI notetaker to take a transcript. Then re-listen, rewatch, or re-read that session within 72 hours (even if it feels a bit over the top).  

Every replay allows you to listen even more deeply. This usually cements strategy and direction from your coach and lets you pick up missed cues, new sparks, and strengthen what you’ll tackle next. So, as you revisit the replay: 

✏️ Make margin notes on ideas.

✏️ Prepare any follow-up questions.

✏️ Then arrive at the next session are begin your next conversation loaded with receipts, results, and the next set of issues you need to solve.

Your coach is committed. But YOU set the pace, the tone, the energy.  

- Don’t outsource responsibility: own your results, celebrate your wins (and your losses), and never wait for someone else to drive. Your coach should be building you to eventually continue on without them. Take the lead as early as possible so you know what that feels like.

- Similarly, if you need a break or want to ease off the accelerator pedal, say so. If you want more and you feel ready to dive deeper into something, ask for it. 

This is your flight. And the best transformations come from radical self-leadership—with your coach as your fiercest co-conspirator.

Right, so one more reminder: coaching isn’t magic. It’s a practice.  

You get out what you put in, and sometimes you’ll want to tap out—so protect your momentum and bring all of YOU to the table, even when it’s uncomfortable.

Here’s the fast recap for how to squeeze every last drop out of your coaching experience:

- Action the actions.  

- Challenge and question.  

- Stay transparent—even (especially) about the hard stuff.  

- Use every ounce of your coach’s wisdom, but never surrender your agency.

And if you ever wonder, “Is it even worth putting this much effort in?”—ask yourself: Isn’t your next chapter worth going all in for?

And if you’re reading or listening to this thinking, “I’m pretty sure I want this, but I’m just not sure how it all applies to me,” or you’re sitting on a question about the path ahead, my DMs are always open. No BS, no pressure - all I have is honest, energetic conversation, straight from one builder to another. Let’s talk.

Your move, Player.